Thursday, April 8, 2010

Perceptions, the good and the bad

I feel like I could blog about how physical characteristics, psychological state, cultural background and gender affect my perceptions of the world around me for such a long time. So, I am going to try to condense my thoughts down and discuss the how physical characteristics affect the way I perceive different people.
I think most of us would like to believe we don't have nay presumed thoughts or biases about certain people or people groups but unfortunately that isn't the case. We have all grown up in completely different situations and we have each experienced and been affected by life in such unique ways. A lot of this is very positive because we each bring different perspectives to the table and we get to help each other out in seeing a bigger picture of what the world looks like. But on the other hand we also inhibit ourselves by some of our perceptions because many times they are not fully true and we miss out on opportunities to get to know other people. In the culture we live in physical attributes are very highly regarded for most people. Many of us have decided that the way we dress and our body shape says a lot about who we are as people. For me, body type has been quite a focus throughout my life. Anyone who has seen me notices two things right away. 1. I am extremely tall for a woman and 2. My hair is curly and huge. Today I have come to love both of these aspects about myself, I truly have. But this has not always been a case. I remember growing up and feeling like a giant in a sea full of short, cute people. I have always been much bigger than my closest friends and growing up I was the tallest in the class; taller than all of the boys. So as a awkward middle school student these aspects were not what I looked at as positive. These aspects have helped in shaping me as an individual. If I wasn't as tall as I am I would take for granted things like, finding jeans that were long enough and what it feels like to always stand out in a crowd. I have been so much more sensitive to other people and I have been put in situations to encourage other people, especially girls, about their body image. We have each been given the bodies we have for a specific reason. We are not a screw-up or a mistake. If we all looked the same things would be pretty darn boring. So, in this aspect I feel like it's been very positive.
On the flip side, at times I have some negative perceptions about people who I feel have "never" struggled with their body shape. This, obviously, is not the case. But I find myself subconsciously looking at people (specifically girls) who are what the world believes to be the "perfect size" and the "perfect height" and I become quite cynical. Thankfully, I know that no matter how "perfect" someone may look on the outside, we ALL struggle with the way we look and feel about who we are. It's been my prayer that I would be so careful about judging people because when we make those assumptions it's not just the physical characteristic we are judging, but we are actually judging the whole being of that person.
How do physical attributes affect the way you view at other people?

2 comments:

  1. Physical attributes affect the way that I view other people in a various ways. I really try to look beyond the way that a person looks, to see what is inside, but no matter how hard I try, I will always see certain characteristics a certain way. If a person looks older, for example, I assume that they are wise. If a person is very good looking, I assume that they have everything they could want, and if a person is tall, I see them as a leader. These are perceptions of mine, that I must work on!

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  2. Most of the time, we judge people by their appearance because we need clues to characterize who they are. Perhaps if we can understand a little about them, we can pick conversation topics or talk to them in a certain way that enhances a possible friendship. That's why I make judgments the majority of the time. Sometimes for example, in the workplace. Appearance is VERY important. Would you want to do business with an executive Vice-President who wore t-shirts and jeans to a meeting with you? My point is that even though judging people is generally a negative thing, it is one of the many tools to help us socialize successfully and get ahead in life.

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